The Emotional Intelligent

It's has been a busy week. Last week, my aunt and uncle from Ausie come to Singapore for a short trip and visit. Not only them, a very best friend of mine came to Singapore for job interview and short vacation as well. Lets hurray for Yeow Chuan as he just got offerer to work in Singapore.

I've been borrowing a book from him before I graduate. By accident, I did not noticed that it was all along inside my car. I kept it inside my car for years and I just couldn't finished reading this book - "The Emotional Intelligent". So, before I head back to Penang for chinese new year, I tried to complete it yet I failed to finish the whole book. After coming back to Singapore for a week, I've been a slump. I stop reading in MRT and bus. I was so lazy that week :p. Suddenly, I received a call from him again one day. (Forgot when already) He told me he is coming to Singapore for interview. That is the time where I'm so determined to return what I owed him for years and continue the rest of the chapters. Good enough I managed to complete all before he went back to Penang again.

As a summary, the book is describing our very right side of the human brain which control all the emotional and rational thinking. I found the book very interesting as it taught me how to be rational and optimistic when we are having negative emotional (example: angry, scare, anxious and many more which stimulate our body metabolism and secrete more enzyme in our body). Not only that, the book also taught me how to control and suppress all the negative emotions as all these negative emotions shorten your lifespan, according to researches.

In a nutshell, this book is teaching you on how to grow your EQ. IQ are predetermined but EQ are not. People with high IQ not necessary have high EQ, but all the success people in the world definitely have high EQ.

Good at commenting other but Bad at acting on ownself

Many people like to comment. They comment everything and anything which can be commented. While they are commenting, they like to talk and teach others how and what action should be taken or practiced. Basically it sounds like this "Aiyoo, I think arr... it should be like this leh, not like that la. It should not be done like this, it must be done like that la. It can't be like this leh, I think it should be like that lo. And so on..." Not only at comments, they like to teach people what to do; talk on how should be done as well.

But, when it comes to real life practice, they can not make it themselves. They are incapable of achieving what they'd commented, told and taught to others. Typically, it is easier to talk then to act. Actions consume large body metabolism compared to talking. Human tend to save energy in limbic motion but like to use up the saved energy in other part of the body - mouth motions. Thats why human only think and comment in the future. All the actions and steps will be done by robots or automations. In the future, like scientists prediction, human will evolve to have a small torso and limb but big head to cater for bigger brain. I think I've to add another comment, not only big head, also big mouth for more eating and more talking. Actually, there's nothing wrong with this behavior. The only thing is that people might not be trusting your words and think that you are boastful only.

Like myself, a typical and normal human being, I have tons of comments and ideas on telling other people how to do and what to do. (I've just commented on the above statement (-_-") ). When it come to practice, I've gave even more tons of excuses and reason on it... Therefore from now onwards, I must not practice this kind of habits. (Actually realized long time ago but give myself a lot of excuse and in the end fail in eliminating this bad habit (-_-") ). In order to be a successful person, now I must really set my mind to omit and reject this behavior once and for all. As a friend of mine, please help me to remind me if I did this same mistake again. I'll only say what ever I'm capable of doing and where my limit stands. So correct me if I'm wrong. I'll be really grateful if you all do so to me.

The Earth Evolutioning?

When I was small, I remembered I studied Geography describing Malaysia and Singapore is a very peaceful and save country from the many hazardous natural disasters such as tornado, tidal wave, earthquake, and volcano eruption.

Since 2004 the day after Christmas, Tsunami or tidal wave attack Penang - My lovable hometown. A few people are dead caused by eating up by merciless the wave. After this incident happened, the Penagites can feel minor earthquake so on and so forth. Most recently, earthquake happened again in Penang on the 20th of February during the Chinese new year. It become more and more "shakier" each time it occurred.

The earth is definitely changing. News, articles and researches keep on mentioning and stressing on global warming and pollutions which are the culprit in the world climate change. Ice are melting in the poles. Desertification process is hastening. Water is drying up at unusual speed. Sea level is increasing and in the contrary, the land is becoming lesser and lesser each year. All Human being noticed all these changes and yet little action or even worse that some country do not take any action at all to solve or overcome this global issue. Furthermore, they are quickening the deteriorating progress.

As a conclusion, the Gaia is "evolving" due to human intervention. Maybe less then a century, our decedent who live in Malaysia or Singapore might experience the disastrous weather due to our own negligence in the Earth Evolutioning.

What you Lost is What you'll Gain

I always belief the Taoism philosophy, the existence of Yin and Yang. The Yin is always oppose of the Yang, for example Yin is dark and Yang will be the light. However they also collaborate between each other in order to be exist. Therefore there's always black dot in the white and vice versa. (Ok, the topic today not discussing the symbol :P)

Just like the Yin and the Yang, something we lost or sacrificed there must be something in exchange that we will gain. Sometimes the profit you gain can be greater then what you have lost. For instant, when I move and start working in Singapore, I have to give up driving my car. Non PR, driving Malaysia number plate car in Singapore is costly. Don't mention about owning a Singapore car in further. It's even much worse in up keeping your car then owning one car. Without own four wheels, I have to use public wheels. Definitely the traveling time and distances will become longer compare to driving by your own. In the other way round, I found myself have a lot of spare time while traveling. I used the free time to read books, play games and sometimes take rest while in the train or in the bus. Within months, I finished a few books, accomplish a few games and fall sleep a few times as well. Without owning a car, I save tons of money in petrol and installment too. In my perspective, I am actually enjoy myself without driving. I really open my eyes when walking rather then "open my eyes" to be cautious while driving.

Though some people might think that travel with public transport is very tedious and wasting time. I don't deny that as well, but in the end, it just depend on how you see through it. Be optimism and you will find yourself happy and joyful always.

The new website for all

Sorry for keeping you guys and gals for so long. After a few weeks of delay, finally I've found the suitable hosting site for the new forum. We've decided to name it as "tomoweb" as tomo in japanese means "friends".

This site is not complicated and serve alot of functions like the other site. It is a free base site created for all my friends and families to share their knowledges, experiences and feelings with the others. But with the support of you all, I'll slowly upgrade the website to a better one once there's income. This is what I promise to all of you. Thank you very much.

The site is http://tomoweb.aimoo.com

The RM350 bus ticket

I've done many hilarious things in my life. One of it was 2 days ago. Even me also can not accept this huge stupid mistake I've done.

I've bought the flight ticket to go back to Johor on 9 Feb which cost me RM250 pax. The departure was printed 2050 on the self printed ticket. The very mistake I made was I do not read the TIME carefully. It was way back to 2 months ago when I print out the ticket. I was so blurred that I interprated 2050 as 10:50pm. Then I keep on reminding myself that my flight was at 10:50pm (2050! It's minus 12hrs). I did not even bother to check and look again the date and time on the tickets before I went to the airport. When I reach airport at 10:00pm on that day, I went to check in my ticket and the guy at the check in counter told me to read the time carefully. Then I only found that the plane which I am going to take had already reach Johor. Hahaha...

Without any choice left, I had to rush and get bus ticket or else I am definitely miss my Monday work. When I reach the Penang bus station around 10:45pm (2045!), I thought of try out my luck to hope there's still seats for 2 heading direct to Singapore on that night. However, only bad news received from all the ticket counters. The best choice left for me is get a 9:30am morning bus to Johor bus station on the next morning which fall on 10 Feb. Without any negotiation point, my only hope to go back cost me another RM100.

In the end I am still able to reach my workplace on Monday morning but it cost me RM350 and 15 hrs ride to reach Singapore!!! So the lesson of this story is you need to minus 12hrs when you interprate international time format and check you transportation tickets after you purchase them! Or else, you'll end up like foolish me.

Happy Chinese New Year

Happy Chinese New Year to all my friends and family! New year, new wishes and new hopes. I sincerely wish everyone's wishes come true and have a prosperity new year. Gong Xi Fa Cai! Xin Nian Kuai Le!